Once we got there we had a chance to talk and resolved what was bothering us both. Things are good again. To make a long story short we ran into a situation where events beyond our control caused us to both to play into eachother's neuroses. All things said and done now I'm very pleased. Finally, a healthy relationship, despite (or perhaps because of) our past failures.
Oh, and thanks, Trish, for letting me rant about this the other day.
Oringinal post: http://mbarrick.livejournal.com/121128.html